Dating apps differ pretty drastically and sometimes it can be hard to know which ones to use, which to pay for, how they differ and how to make the most out of each one. Once on, you will likely notice that you see some of the same people on several apps. Here we review some of the most popular dating apps to help you get a lay of the land.
Bumble - Bumble stands out from other dating apps primarily because of its "women-first" approach and unique features intended to create a more respectful and empowering online dating experience for all involved.
1. Women Make the First Move
In heterosexual matches, only women can initiate conversations, giving them more control over initial interactions. In same-sex matches, either person can start the conversation.
2. Time-Limited Matches
After a match, women have 24 hours to send a message, then the match disappears (though there is a re-match option). Once the first message is sent, the other person has 24 hours to respond, encouraging active engagement. This can be a setback for people who are not actively checking the app regularly.
3. Emphasis on Safety & Respect
Bumble features like photo verification to reduce catfishing and use of AI tools to detect inappropriate images, as well as in-app blocking and reporting tools, are precautions utilized to try and ensure better safety.
4. Woman Founded and Owned Business with a Female Focused Branding & Mission
Founded by Whitney Wolfe Herd (a Tinder co-founder), Bumble focuses on empowering women in the dating world. The app actively promotes equality and healthy relationships.
Unlinke Hinge and Tinder, without paying for a subscription, you won't be able to view anyone who like you unless you match (both like each other).
Bumble also automatically picks up on your location (unless you turn off this feature) and shows you matches in your current location. This can be nice if you want to date on vacation or if you are considering moving somewhere else and are testing the dating pool while visiting that spot.
My personal theory is that men on Bumble play a bit of a numbers game since they can't make the first move. The result can be a lot of likes that don't go anywhere.
Hinge - Hinge differentiates itself from other dating apps by focusing on more meaningful connections rather than casual swiping. Its tagline, "Designed to be deleted," reflects its goal of helping users find serious relationships and get off the apps.
1. Profile Depth & Engagement Over Swiping (Quality Over Quantity)
Instead of just swiping, Hinge requires users to like or comment on a specific part of someone’s profile (e.g., a photo or a prompt answer). This encourages thoughtful interactions rather than mindless swiping, though you can just like a photo and match as well.
2. Unique Prompts & Personality-Driven Profiles
Users answer fun and personal prompts like "Most spontaneous thing I’ve done" or "Dating me is like..." This allows people to showcase their personality, humor, and values, making profiles feel more authentic.
3. "We Met" Feature for Real Feedback
After a date, or even after being matched for a while, Hinge asks users if they met in person yet and if they’d like to see the person again. This data helps improve match recommendations and create more successful connections.
4. Standouts & Roses for High-Quality Matches
The Standouts section highlights potential matches based on shared interests and engagement. Users can send a "Rose" (similar to a Super Like) to stand out.
5. Relationship-Oriented Algorithm
Hinge’s algorithm prioritizes matches based on engagement and compatibility rather than just attractiveness. It uses the Nobel Prize-winning Gale-Shapley algorithm, which is designed to create more compatible matches.
Personally, I did meet someone on Hinge who I dated for a year and a half. In general, it does feel like people on Hinge are looking for something serious or more long term.
Tinder - Tinder is the pioneer of the swipe-based matching system and has a broad user base.
1. The OG Swipe Dating App (for better or worse!)
Tinder popularized swiping—right to like, left to pass—which can make matching feel quick and intuitive. Other apps have adopted this feature, but Tinder remains the fastest-paced dating app. Subsribers can use the Rewind feature to bring back the last profile they swiped "no" on. In all honesty my uncle and his wife would not be together today if she had not been able to use this feature.
2. Large & Diverse User Base
With millions of users worldwide, Tinder offers more variety in potential matches than most dating apps. It’s great for both casual dating and serious relationships, depending on what you're looking for. This is also the biggest complaint about Tinder. It does have more of a "hook-up" culture vibe. If you see people on Tinder and on other apps saying they are looking for a LTR, that is likely a good sign they are looking for more.
3. Location-Based Matching
Tinder's geolocation feature prioritizes nearby matches, making it ideal for meeting people in real time. The Tinder Passport feature (available with paid subscriptions) allows you to match with people anywhere in the world.
4. Low Barrier to Entry
Tinder has one of the simplest profiles to set up—just a few photos, a bio, and basic details. This makes it easy for anyone to start matching quickly without filling out lengthy questionnaires. This also often feels like a drawback. Many people put minimal info, leaving you wondering about basic information, like height and location.
5. Gamified Experience
The fast-paced, addictive swiping mechanism keeps users engaged (but not necessarily focused on quality). Features like Super Likes, Boosts, and Tinder Gold/Platinum subscriptions can "enhance" the experience.
6. Tinder Social & Special Features
Tinder Explore: allows users to match based on shared interests and Tinder Vibes: creates a time-limited event where users answer fun questions and get matched based on their responses.
Overall, Tinder is best for fast, casual connections, though some people do find long-term relationships on it as well.
The League - The League is a dating app marketed as an "exclusively for ambitious, highly educated and career-focused singles. It pulls from your LinkedIn account to populate your dating profile. The League has been around since 2015 and while it is "free", users are asked to pay high in-app fees in order to actually get much out of the app.
According to the site, users are vetted based on education, career, and social presence, "leading to a high-quality user base". A nice feature of the LinkedIn integration is that it does verify profiles and reduces fake accounts. Some special features are "Happy Hour" at 5 pm your 3-4 daily League selected matches show up for you to like or not. Supposedly this encourages quality over quantity. Another feature is that the app offers “League Live” for virtual speed dating.
Some setbacks, in addition to those already mentioned, are that many users experience delays in getting approved. If you have a referral from a friend, you usually get approved pretty quickly and it is nowhere near as difficult as getting approved for RAYA, but some people still seem to have to wait a bit. Another criticism is that the premium plans, which allow you to actually have more control over who sees your likes and who you see, are insanely expensive. Some users find the low volume of free matches frustrating and the alternative is pricey.
The League is a good choice for professionals who prioritize career compatibility and quality matches over sheer quantity. However, the exclusivity and high cost is definitely not ideal for everyone. Personally, I have found The League to be useless (though I still check my Happy Hour matches ... I mean why not?.. most days).
Facebook Dating - Facebook Dating is a free feature within the Facebook app that helps people find connections based on their interests, activities, and mutual friends.
Facebook Dating is integrated into Facebook, but operates separately from your main profile and can only be accessed from the Facebook phone app. A unique feature of FB Dating is that it allows users to select up to nine Facebook or Instagram friends they’re interested in and if there’s a mutual match, both are notified. This can be nice if you keep your friends and followers limited to people you actually know. Users can also share their Instagram and Facebook stories on their dating profile (some other apps also allow Instagram integration). Some of the matches users see on FB Dating are based on mutual interests in Facebook groups and events, so if you are active on FB then this can be a bonus. Of course a great part of FB Dating is that it is free and has no paid tiers. It is also super easy to set up because it uses your existing Facebook information to suggest matches. Because it requires connection to a real Facebook account, there is less catfishing and fewer fake profiles than on other dating sites. One drawback is that some users may be hesitant to share personal details given Facebook's history with data privacy issues.
Facebook Dating is a great option for those who want a free, integrated dating experience with a focus on meaningful connections. However, if privacy is a concern or if you prefer a larger pool of potential matches, other dating apps might be a better fit. Personally, I have found Facebook dating to be as good a way to meet people as any of the other apps.
Match - Match was the first dating app I ever went on. I knew my ex husband had met his girlfriend on Match and thought it seemed like a good way to meet someone nice, who was looking for something real. Match has no free option, so everyone on the app is paying to be there and therefore, logically you would assume that most people on Match are looking for a serious or long term relationship. Match is one of the oldest and most established dating platforms around. Unlike many newer swipe-based apps, Match claims to focus on meaningful connections and long-term relationships
Match utilizes algorithm-driven compatibility matching. A detailed questionnaire and behavioral data are used by the Match algorithm to suggest compatible partners. Unlike apps that rely solely on swiping, it considers personality traits, interests, and preferences to curate high-quality matches.
Match also has a fairly extensive user base. Founded in 1995, Match has one of the largest and most diverse dating pools in the world. This makes it easier to find potential partners, especially for those seeking serious relationships rather than casual encounters.
Customizable search filters allow users to manually search for partners using detailed filters like lifestyle choices, religion, and relationship goals. This gives users more control over their dating experience and who they see.
Match offers premium features like Read Receipts, allowing you to see if your messages have been read and Vibe Check, which is a built-in video chat feature for virtual dates.
If you don’t find a match within six months of subscribing, Match offers an additional six months for free.
Community & Events
Match hosts local singles events, such as speed dating and themed meetups, allowing users to meet potential matches in person.
Match is a good choice for those who are serious about finding love and prefer a more curated, thoughtful dating experience over swipe-based apps. While it requires more effort than casual dating apps, its success in fostering long-term relationships is said to set it apart.
Personally, I have not had much success on Match, other than meeting a couple men who became close friends. I was not able to find a good relationship fit on Match at all. I also find that the same people pop back up after you have said "no thank you" by clicking the "X" and some even comment on the fact that you read their like or comment and chose not to respond, which can feel "stalkerish" and unpleasant. I have never found Match to be worth the high price tag and long length of commitment.
Raya - Raya is a highly exclusive, membership-based dating app designed for creatives, celebrities, and high-profile individuals. Unlike mainstream dating apps, it operates on an invite-only model and has a strict and selective application process, making it a social networking platform as much as a dating app.
Raya claims to be the dating app for artists, influencers, celebrities, and professionals in entertainment, fashion, tech, and other creative industries and once an application is submitted, you must be approved by a selection committee
Raya is known as the "Illuminati Tinder" because of its strict and elitist "vetting" process. Users must apply and be approved by an anonymous committee, often requiring strong social media presence, industry connections, or creative achievements. This exclusivity keeps the dating pool elite and minimizes fake profiles.
Unlike traditional dating apps, Raya also functions as a professional networking tool. Many users join to connect with like-minded creatives, expand their industry circles, or collaborate on projects. There’s even a "Work Mode" option to help users find professional opportunities.
Raya doesn’t use a swipe-heavy interface like Tinder or Bumble. Instead, it provides curated profiles with a slideshow format, allowing users to present themselves with a mix of photos and a background song from Apple Music. This makes profiles feel more personal and artistic in presentation.
Due to its high-profile user base, Raya enforces strict privacy rules. Taking screenshots within the app results in a warning or even a ban. This ensures that celebrities and influencers can use the app without worrying about exposure.
While applying is free, once accepted, users must pay a monthly fee of around $10. This small but intentional fee helps keep the community engaged and serious about the experience.
Raya seems to be a good option for for elite, creative, and industry-connected singles who want an exclusive dating and networking experience. However, its high barrier to entry and small dating pool make it less accessible for the average user. If you’re looking for a low-key, private, and high-quality dating experience, Raya could be worth trying—if you can get in.
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